Introvertion

  

Hello my fellow introverts… Was’up?!… Been introverting much?
  Agh… I know, I know! My jokes are bad… My apologies! Won’t do it again, I swear! But honestly…  Not that is an excuse or something… But would you believe me If I said that there’s a reason why I suck at jokes?... Yeah, guilty… I’m an introvert! And I’m not alone, or ashamed of it. Well… I do get embarrassed easily, but… The truth is, many misunderstanding are made about an introvert personality, misunderstandings that possibly are making you say “Why the hell is she proud of being an introvert?? That’s a bad thing!”. Well, let me just clarify two facts straight ahead.
  Fact nr 1: Society and it’s stupidity not only prefer, but also clearly benefits extroverts, even though the person in question don't deserve such privilege...  Those bastards… Go ahead introverts, call them names! I’ll let you just this one time.  This leads me to fact nr 2!
  Fact n2: Extroverts usually are very stupid and dumb… Do they seriously have a brain? I doubt it… I think I’m going to investigate more about that one my thesis in the end of my major in Psychology.
Ahhhh, my apologies, I know I promised I wouldn’t do that again… scratch that, this is the real fact nr 2:

  Fact nr2: Introverts many times are mistaken by anti-socials.

  Now listen to me, because I’ll only say this once… INTROVERTS ARE THE OPOSITE OF ANTI-SOCIAL!!! GOT IT? Good… And trust me on this, I’m a Psychology student! But Why I say this after all? It’s simple! Anti-social by definition are people with self-confidence, self-esteem and an evaluation about themselves too high. Basically, They think They are the best thing there is, so They treat everyone else as inferiors, and that’s why They can’t function well in society. Introverts on the other hand, have so low self-confidence and self-esteem that can’t help but feeling nervous and anxious on social situations, especially situations than involve a crowd of people (as for example, a public presentation). That’s why many times we are confused by anti-social, because being in that situations is distressful, agonizing even… And because of that clear uncomfortable state, we usually have an unpleasant expressions, or even behaviors, as being quite and keeping things to ourselfs (we introvert things, after all). But there’s also other thing that separates us from anti-social… They don’t like other people; They think they’re too good for them! We seek other people! We seek affection, friendship, love, endearment as anyone else… And many times, that is deprived from us, just because we’re not so “charismatic”, and sometimes people don’t seem understand that this anxiousness isn’t something that just disappears. Many times we are also succesfull, and have a pleasing social life, but still, you can understand that we sometimes can have a bad time.
  It doesn’t matter if you’re a charming and kind extrovert, or even an evil anti-social… Hate and discrimination will only come back at you! We all can be many things! But believe me, kindness it is the most valuable feature, so next time you see someone shaking before an oral presentation, give them a smile and a thumbs up! If you’re in a party with a group of people, and you see someone who is at the corner and seems to want to say something but can’t spit it out? Chat with them, one on one, nothing more is precious to us than that. Does this description makes you remember someone you know? Send them a message! (By the way, my cellphone number is +351… AFF Fine, I’m just kidding, I’ll stop it, I’ll stop it… ^^’).

  And please… Don’t mistake us for some rude anti-social, or just someone who is simply shy or quite who knows what to say, when to say it… (Remember, we are clumsy by nature, we never know what to say, we’ll never will!).

  I dare you to try and discover all the secret treasures that lies on the heart of any introvert.

And to end this matter, I here give to you, the same subject abborded by someone who you'll might like to hear:

Faith

  I’m afraid today I’m going to touch one of the mostly wisely avoidable topics… No, it’s not Politics (hate that)… It’s Religion! TA-DA! I know, I know… “Why the hell would we want to read your opinion or your beliefs??”… Don’t worry! I do not come here to judge or impose my ideals, that’s not the point of my blog at all… I’m not even going to say which one is the Religion that I grew up with. So If you were expecting that, I’m sorry but you probably should stop reading this… Because, this is going to be just one more of my post where I say everything, without saying anything concrete at all… I’m sorry, but I don’t believe in extremes. But for a start, because is such a delicate topic, I will start to clarify some major points:

•           Do I believe in God? I don’t know… Yes, I suppose.
•           Have I the tendency to believe in what I can’t see? No, not at all.
•           Am I Religious? Yes.
•           Do I practice that said religion? Not much.
•           Do I agree with Gay marriage? Yes. Love is love, for God’s sake! (ahah… Saw what I did here?)
•           Do I agree with abortion? No… Life should be the most treasured thing in this world.
•           Do I think that my religion and its own followers are better than the others? Absolutely Not.
•           Do I hate or have something against atheists? No!
•           Do I hate who is so passionate about other religions beside mine? No!
•           Do I have difficulty to comprehend the last two groups mentioned? Sometimes yes, sometimes not, as with everyone else.
•           Don’t I understand that these answers seem somewhat hypocrites because of their incoherence? Well… Yes…

  And that’s it… There you have it: a clear a simplified scheme of my opinions… I don’t know why, but people always seem to need this- a logical and understandable scheme of things… Other way, it’s very difficult for us to accept what it’s being said to us… Well, I’m sorry, but I think that specially when it comes to religion It’s stupid to only be logical… You have to listen to your heart! And everyone has a heart (…I think).

  I don’t think that I’m the one being hypocrite just because If I’m liberal enough to accept gay marriage then I should be liberal enough to accept abortion… Or I should do I as my religion says… That’s major bullsh*t (mind my language). Being religious shouldn’t be about being conformist and accept all the ideals pre-formed by some religion many years ago, it should be “I believe in this religion, as the base of my belifs, values and actions”…  I mean, I believe that is pretty difficult to actually agree with everything that the Bible says, or that the Alcoran or any other religious book or person says… And I also can’t comprehend people who say that without Religion we would be a much more advanced society in many aspects such as technologically… Although I can see where that comes from…  But still… That’s stupid!! Because of wars?? Please!  Don’t you comprehend the nature of the human being? We seek war, we seek our protection, our ambitions, religion by itself didn’t cause those wars, MEN caused those wars. And by the way… many times, but MANY times in history, societies were in danger of collapsing, disappear… You know what made them go through? Survive? FAITH! Where that faith did came from? Yeah… “God”! So no, without Religion we wouldn’t be a more sophisticated society… We would be dead… Or transformed in a bunch of robots… worse than animals! But that’s no reason to justify or making everything about your life also about God either.

  I think that the ones being hypocrites are the ones who don’t see anything besides what’s in front of them… Or the one who only see what’s not in front of them! Because, whatever you want it or not, Religion will always be hand with hand with faith… And that big word right there, is dictated only by your heart. So please… Remember that next time you encounter a conflict of beliefs… Whatever that conflict lays within yourself, or between you and other person… You can’t go wrong, when your heart say it’s right… And following that, respect is deserved andreceived, and faith can makes us do the most incredible things… And the most stupid ones as well.

Change

It seems like is when we’re having a tough time that we tend to eager more for a change, for a life turning event. Moving to a new home, a new country, changing to a new job or a new school, enter in college, go in a big trip, meeting new people, start a new serious relationship with someone, live with somebody else, becoming a parent. So many things can change our behavior and life’s perception. It takes only one of that events happening to somebody close to us that make us think differently.  And as we get older, is those changes that make us mature, grow in mind and spirit. And nothing says that those changes are going to be good, as matter of fact, many can be bad. We got to be humble, strong, face forward… That sounds cliché, I know, but only If you are able to conquer new responsibilities, to let go some things of your past that give you comfort but don’t give you independence (like daddy and mummys home) and lead you to be stuck in the same place for a long time, only then you’ll be able to embrace those changes in your life a became a fulfilled adult. Well… I see only advantages in change, isn’t that right? No wonder when life seems crappy, you desire change… Things get better! And you probably have that humble part down, because things haven't been easy. And let’s face it, you’re young, you should take advantages of the opportunities that you have while you can, of course! Not when you’re older.

That’s all true… But let just think things through… And some parents will love and thank me what I’m about to say right now… But you don’t have to go extreme… You don’t have to run away to a new country just as a way to erase the rest, for example! And we all know that it's not easy to grow up, but sometimes it's the little things that make the difference! And with time, If we grow up, we learn to select what matters and what doesn’t, and cope with it. And things like always saying “I don’t give f*ck” as mechanism of defense that sometimes is enforced in nowadays society, will disappear… Be honest, If you really don’t give a f*ck, you wouldn’t be saying that, or as matter of fact, you wouldn’t even be talking about it.

Regret

                                      

“If only I knew then what I know now”, “If only I could go back in time”, “If only I could resay or redo things I’ve said and done”, so cliché and used words that spell one only word: Regret.

I’ve already talked about how “what if’s” could influence our minds, how illusions are part of our lives… But the mistakes or the things that we wanted to do but didn’t do after all, can easily haunt us as well. To look back at a phase we were at in our lives and think “wow, that sucked, why did I put up with that?”, or even “why did I hang out with that person at all?”, and even if we don’t want it, that phase will always be part of us, there’s nothing we can do about it. Sometimes it hurts to look back, sometimes we feel ashamed remembering some episodes that happen that day because of that thing. These are normal reactions, and sometimes we take it in and learn from experience, and we even think that this new knowledge is our highest truth and the slogan of our lives. We think “Oh, I’m so wise, I’ve been through so much”, even If we learn that humility is a thing to value. We forget that the things that we’re experiencing now, are also object of evaluation, reflection, thinking… And that kind of attitude can bring us trouble too, and with that, before we know it, we’re hurting again.

People won’t change just because you changed. Mean people will still exist, people older than us that are more immature will still exist, people younger than us that are more wiser than us will also still exist. People won’t adapt to you, the world won’t adapt to you, and just because you have some self-called skills, you have no right to demand that same skill from others. And this, this is what’s called humility, and If you have it, karma will have less reasons to affect you, and life will smile to you. New beginnings are real, kind people are real, people who value that same things as you, are also real… So treat them well, If you feel insecure, don’t charge them with that by using aggression, don’t take them for granted, don’t give them reasons to bring your worst side to the surface, because that way, you’ll regret that later, and once again regret fills your mind and heart, and a never ending cycle is formed.

Unlove

How do you know that you have a broken heart? When every little thing that spells “happy puppy love” annoys you… When you read cheesy stupid things (like the ones written on this blog) and it disgusts you… When you hate yourself for falling in love in the first place. “I’ve should known this wasn’t right”. When you wish you could go back in time, and never let that person have any sort of impact in you. You might hate them, for many reasons that you may have… But at the end of the day, you’re the one to blame. Yeah, Yeah, Yeah… Why? Why does that person has to be so gentle when he/she doesn’t have any intentions or feels anything? Why pretend when you don’t even care? That’s all true… But you’re the one who misunderstood… The things that you called signs? Yeah right… “signs” you say…. You’re the one who created an illusion based on what if: “what if he/she falls for me?”, “what If we work out”, “what If we are forever”… Would be perfect, right? You might even think “I’ll never fall this hard for someone again… Not like this”. That might be true, who knows… But, don’t worry! It will be alright! Just, take your time. For some time, cut any contact you have with that person. Conversations? Only If necessary! And just like a baby learns to let go of mummy skirt… Let go of that person. Meet new people, change something! Dye your hair, buy new clothes. Move on. Get realist: nothing is forever. Because, what was truly yours once, it always comes back to you, one way or another. If you do that, you’ll remember that love not as “I was so stupid back then”, but with smile, because you learned, you prepared yourself for something bigger, you unloved.