Luck

Evaluations, exams… Why in the world they had to exist? Why should we prove ourselves? Why should I be compared to others?  Well, I could actually start a speech on how important is to society to be organized to be functional, and that everybody has their owns functions and jobs for that to happened, and that implies people having to be prepared to be in the category that They fought for, but that’s not my point here.

My point is, if you have an important goal to achieve, you’ll probably be putted on the spot. That happens to everyone (ok, almost everyone). It doesn’t matter if is an exam in high school, in college, to have you’re driving license, to become employed, If you’re doing it and you believe that you prepared yourself the most that you could, there’s still luck involved in that process. Especially in the last two examples. And when there’s so much  luck involved, you can’t help to be afraid, to be nervous, to think “What the hell is going to happen to me?”, you may not be the most religious person in the world, but you’ll pray then!

So What? Life is unfair, buhu! People makes mistakes, including you (what a shock). Sometimes you’re not lucky, something unexpected happens, you have a bad day, or you don’t have the support you need. Many things cause bad luck (just ask karma). But sometimes you’re lucky, you pass, good!  Learn with it, be humble. Appreciate it. Life will be much more kind with you. Same thing with love… If you’re THAT girl, and you find THAT guy, then don’t take it for granted. Fight for what you love, fight to be the best you can be at being yourself. Then the impossible loses the “im”, and you’ll not only surprise the others, but more important: you’ll surprise yourself, you’ll learn more and grow and become more wiser. So breathe once, think twice and GO!

Man vs Women

Relationships are complicated…  (Eureka!) It’s very difficult to find someone with who you click, and that you can’t stop thinking about.  Might be someone that you actually don’t see every day, but when you do, it makes your whole week… Someone that you already miss when you’re saying good bye and you’re seeing each other in a couple of hours... Yeah, love is strange, stupid… It sounds like an illusion sometimes, but in the right timing it can make a person a lot happier.

Why is so complicated after all? Well, wrong is very attractive and there for we end up falling in love with the wrong person. The sad thing about it? You know it! You know it’s wrong and you still want it. Yeah, you’re great together. He’s funny, charming and good looking. She’s sweet, innocent, avoids any drama and looks like a baby doll. But she has dreams of having a family and settling down, he wants to spend his life traveling (or vice-versa). He loves her, but has no time for her, he’s confused, he doesn’t want to hurt her, she thinks he’s her prince charming.

Enough with generalizations and examples, it’s true also that in some cases, even with all that obstacles, it works somehow. To exist bad, exists good. So the best thing to do is to recognize both. Be passionate, fight, but be realistic, be serious. Don’t search for qualities and flaws on the other person (you’re not their therapist), just know them. And don’t point them out, because no one knows better the quality and flaws of someone than the person itself and because you might be judging something that you don’t know that well.  

So… You don’t have time? Make time, it’s the easiest thing when you love someone. You’re confused? Don’t know like her/his personality or body? Learn to love her/his flaws and qualities, because you are human too. Change and be changed. That’s only way to love and be loved back. Experience is not needed to understand that. Inexperience sometimes makes it more real and pure.