And what is wrong with advices? Well… People sometimes many times don’t listen. Why? It’s not easy to hear from another person “You’re doing this wrong! Why don’t you do this and that ?”. Part of the human nature is to defend ourselves… Some people lie, lying to themselves as consequence. Others find every argument possible and more to prove the others wrong. Others say “You do the same thing! Why are you saying that to me?! Who you think you are, God?!” missing the point of an advice… In that case you’ll probably hear “Do what I say, don’t do what I do”. Because nobody is perfect, and everyone makes mistakes. People don’t always match their own believes with their own actions. People are incoherent. Does that mean that They can’t care for their friends? Family? Boyfriend/Girlfriend?
So let’s clear this up: when someone is giving you an advice, even being incoherent, probably is because that person cares about you and wants the best for you! And probably cares more than a therapist cares for his own patient. So there is no need to get defensive or aggressive. There is no need to be hurt or hurt the other. Forgiveness is a beautiful thing too. Let’s not forget that, let’s listen. And let’s also not forget that incoherence is constant in a young person’s life. Because when you’re young, you’re finding who you are and what you want, you’ll make mistakes in that process, and you’ll think that you’re the king of the world (Thanks Leonardo DiCaprio) and that you’re always right. So, to give you some sense, you can count on the people who love you. And what will They do? Give you an advice. :) And that's the beauty of people, what make us so special: we love. And we spend time and energy with the ones we love.
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